I grew up in a household with strict rules. Foremost among them: Get out of the house. When not in school we were expected to be outside. We spent our days doing chores and fishing, looking for pirate treasure along Contraband Bayou or building forts, swimming in ponds or going to the library. Whether on bikes or on the bayou, that landscape was full of kids. On days spent inside because of rain we would play board games or read, watching TV was off limits.
Today, where our farm is located, in East Tennessee, the countryside is mostly empty. You see the occasional activity outdoors, usually men on tractors. But only once in sixteen years have I seen a kid cross the seventy acres of our farm. Never have I had to yell at a kid for building a fort on our land. No kid has ever darkened the door to ask permission to hunt rabbit or squirrel, or fish in our ponds.
Our companions in this landscape
There are homes nearby where I have never observed a person outside. Cars appear and disappear in the driveways. But the owners are not once glimpsed. I’ve cut a hay field; long hours, three days in a row and never spotted a person outside a neighbor’s house. A house, I add, that often had four cars in the drive.
While baling that hay on the final day, I saw one of the cars start up and move down the driveway. It drove the 150 feet to the mailbox. A youthful arm extended out of the driver’s window and collected the mail. The car reversed back up to the house.
It would be tempting to ridicule the generation of kids who spend their lives in darkened rooms, zombied in screen-time with their gadgets. But their parents, who by example, are equally to blame. With all of the challenges we face to our civilization and planet, it seems somehow dishonorable to while away one’s life in such an unproductive manner.
That the rural landscape is empty in the very place where hands and eyes are needed is troubling. Wendell Berry and Wes Jackson refer to the benefit of “eyes to acres”. They mean that the understanding and the correction of problems in our landscape begin by an intimate daily familiarity.
In a way, it seems like a modern day Highland clearance; where blame rests partly with forces that have devalued the local in favor of the global, removing those eyes-to-acres. But it is a blame shared by us for our willing collusion in that withdrawal, as passive consumers of this life.
Understanding our land begins with engagement, even if it is just a kid rambling along on an idle afternoon across a pasture and a wooded hill.
Maybe our inner mom needs to say, “Get out of the house! Don’t come back in until dinner.”
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Postscript: Hopefully the weather is finally breaking towards spring. Our final crop of lambs are being born, we have piglets to castrate and potatoes to plant. So the navel gazing tone to this blog should return to more mundane topics of the farm in the coming weeks…or not.
Note to self – stare at a seedless orange for blogging inspiration 🙂
I find it interesting you’ve lamented only seeing one kid cross the farm in sixteen years. It makes sense in the context of your piece. And it gives me a whole other lens through which to consider the many trespassings that have occurred on our little holding. Such an intrusion has always seemed to me an invasion and in some instances have had economic consequences – not like vandalism in the first degree – more from ignorance of their impact. [I will still continue to maintain that poaching deer is more than an act of ignorance however].
“Eyes-to-acres” – a wonderful concept and potentially worthy of some further seedless orange observation time.
I do have a beef with most deer hunters. They seem to be the most inconsiderate lot. We have had a large herd of heritage cattle out on a highway, a mile from our farm, because the fences were cut. And I’ve collected a couple of tree stands put up without permission. But as for innocent ramblers, they are few and far between.
What to say about the kids! Even I don’t leave my house nearly enough. Thanks for the reminder. Dhyan
Yep, I think we all share a bit of guilt on this one. Though, certainly some more than others. 🙂
I love this post, it rings true here too in the west of Ireland. I was outside splitting wood the other day (with an axe) when the postman drove up. He said it was so nice to see someone outside doing something. And tonight we were outside after dinner playing in the thin layer of snow until it got too dark to see. My kids are seven and 4, they loved it, could hardly get them in.
I appreciate the comment. Our postman has said something similar, as to how few people he meets anymore on his rural route. That is more than a bit sad. Hopefully your weather is ready to warm and you can put away the axe for another season.
There are probably even more people imitating trap door spiders here in suburbia than in your area. It’s a complicated problem, though. I have thought before that it might partly relate to trust, at least when it comes to kids ranging freely through the neighborhood.
Even in the 60s, when I was growing up, I was allowed a LOT less freedom to roam than my brothers, which was pretty annoying, especially since I had no idea what my parents were so worried about (I’ve figured it out since then). Now, I think parents keep even their boys closer to home, since they have no idea who their neighbors are, where they came from, or whether those neighbors will help rather than harm children. Cars speeding through the neighborhood don’t inspire a lot of trust that kids can be sent out safely, either.
It does seem likely, though, that the lack of engagement with our environment that results from so many people’s staying indoors is going to keep causing problems for us all.